Supporting Someone Who Is Bereaved This Christmas

It is easy to get wrapped up in the excitement of the season. Everywhere we look, there are reminders. Christmas trees, lights, presents. It is hard not to be swept up in the festivities.

For those who have lost someone this year, Christmas can be a particularly hard time. Faced with constant merriment and joyful messages everywhere as a contrast to their grief can be cripplingly lonely. If you know someone who is grieving this season, here is some advice on ways to support them.

Reach Out

When it comes to grief, many people are unsure what to say or afraid of saying the wrong thing to the person who is bereaved. As a result, the person can feel isolated as people are too afraid to speak to them. Whatever you do, don’t avoid talking to the person. Don’t allow fear to stop you from reaching out to them when they are most in need. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but letting them know that you care and that they are not alone during the worst time of their lives is by far more important.

Invite Them

If they do not have plans for Christmas, do consider extending an invite to them to celebrate with you. Being around people and joining in with their Christmas traditions may be helpful to the person rather than spending the day alone. Don’t be pushy, however. If they decline your invitation, do not be hurt, but instead let them know they are welcome if they change their mind. Grief is unpredictable and they may decide they would like company on the day after all. Just in case, prepare plenty of food to go around.

Support Their Decision

You may have several preconceived notions around what is ‘best’ for the person who is grieving, particularly around Christmas time. However, grief is different for everyone and cannot be dictated to. Support however they choose to spend Christmas and don’t try to push your ideas on them. If they want to hide from the world and act as if it’s just another day, let them. If they want to join in with celebrations, laugh and make merry, support them. Don’t make them feel guilty about how they decide to spend Christmas. Let them know you support them wherever they are.

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